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Nedelle Torrisi. Info about my music and also a love advice "column." You can ask questions anonymously with the "ask anything" button, or write longer questions to advicefromparadise@gmail.com.

advicefromparadise:

Playing this show with musician extraordinaire Sam Gendel. It’s gonna be so good! 
bouquetmusic:
PLAYING 4 FREE: FEVER & PARTY CHAMBERS SHOW AT LITTLE JOY (ECHO PARK RISING) SUNDAY AUGUST 17 w/ FRESH & ONLYS, NEDELLE TORRISI, DEVON WILLIAMS, BLOODY DEATH SKULL, LA TAKEDOWN, ZERO DESIRE, SUSAN, YA BA! 4PM START TIME

advicefromparadise:

Playing this show with musician extraordinaire Sam Gendel. It’s gonna be so good! 

bouquetmusic:

PLAYING 4 FREE: FEVER & PARTY CHAMBERS SHOW AT LITTLE JOY (ECHO PARK RISING) SUNDAY AUGUST 17 w/ FRESH & ONLYS, NEDELLE TORRISI, DEVON WILLIAMS, BLOODY DEATH SKULL, LA TAKEDOWN, ZERO DESIRE, SUSAN, YA BA! 4PM START TIME

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Anonymous asked: Okay so this is weird but I'm 17 years old and I'm finding myself having feelings for a 13 year old (he looks really old for his age, like 16/17). I've known him for 8 years. I used to help out in his classes at school and he would act really flirty (I wouldn't flirt back obviously). It's not like constant thinking about him but whenever I see him I get butterflies. I'm obviously not going to do anything about it because that's just wrong but I need some advice on how to get over it.


Answer:

Hello There,

Your ages are definitely at the crux of your dilemma. If you were in your 20s or 30s, a four year difference wouldn’t seem, well..unseemly. But I’m glad we agree that it’s necessary you leave this crush behind, at least for a few years! If it’s really meant to be, you’ll run into him down the line… You’ll barely recognize him at first. And then you’ll strike up a conversation and…

Wake up! Back to present day! REAL LIFE.

Relationships that are taboo are also, for better or worse, exciting. Is there a chance you’re subconsciously trying to stir things up because you’re a bit bored? I know I do that sometimes. And I definitely did that at the end of high school. Hopefully after high school, you’ll start a new chapter, and this crush will quickly become a faint memory.

The other good news is that these butterflies can be felt with someone else! So right now, you’ve got to avoid the boy at all costs and distract yourself by finding a new guy! 

Other distraction suggestions: hang out with friends, focus on your hobbies, develop a new hobby (preferably something tedious and time-consuming like putting together 3,000-piece 3D puzzles), get some good grades, read books, play sports, do yoga, and anything else that makes it so you don’t have time to sit around daydreaming about something that doesn’t have the potential to make your life more awesome.

XO!

Nedelle

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#advice  #advice column  #advice from paradise  #love advice  #relationships 
Thank you feministlibraryonwheels for having my love advice booth at your fundraiser last night!!!
Photo cred: Stephen Heath

Thank you feministlibraryonwheels for having my love advice booth at your fundraiser last night!!!

Photo cred: Stephen Heath

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#f.l.o.w.  #love advice  #advice column  #advice from paradise  #mobile library  #library  #feminism  #book drive  #fundraiser 
grupaok:
Lauren Bacall, hair and makeup test for To Have and Have Not, 1944

grupaok:

Lauren Bacall, hair and makeup test for To Have and Have Not, 1944

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It’s All Love

Q: How can you get a guy to talk to you and like you? Like do you put pictures on IG or what?

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#michael jackson  #love advice  #advice column  #advicefromparadise  #sexy clown 
Playing this show with musician extraordinaire Sam Gendel. It’s gonna be so good! 
bouquetmusic:
PLAYING 4 FREE: FEVER & PARTY CHAMBERS SHOW AT LITTLE JOY (ECHO PARK RISING) SUNDAY AUGUST 17 w/ FRESH & ONLYS, NEDELLE TORRISI, DEVON WILLIAMS, BLOODY DEATH SKULL, LA TAKEDOWN, ZERO DESIRE, SUSAN, YA BA! 4PM START TIME

Playing this show with musician extraordinaire Sam Gendel. It’s gonna be so good! 

bouquetmusic:

PLAYING 4 FREE: FEVER & PARTY CHAMBERS SHOW AT LITTLE JOY (ECHO PARK RISING) SUNDAY AUGUST 17 w/ FRESH & ONLYS, NEDELLE TORRISI, DEVON WILLIAMS, BLOODY DEATH SKULL, LA TAKEDOWN, ZERO DESIRE, SUSAN, YA BA! 4PM START TIME

— 2 weeks ago with 6 notes
Reach for the Stars

Q: Hi, so um I like this guy right and we used to be really close and he liked me back, but then I started pushing him away because he liked another girl too. I still really like him but he doesn’t know… what should I do?

A: One time in 7th grade I had a crush on a guy. But so did my best friend. I was so eager to have a reason to talk to him, I told her I’d hook them up! So I did! I know, it’s so stupid. I thought I was winning in the situation because I got to talk to him…like, a lot! But then they started dating. Terrible analogy, I know, but my point is: if you like him, you shouldn’t hold back. In my case, shyness held me back, and probably some insecurities, too. But in your case, it’s an abstract thing- that he likes someone else, too. Everybody is crushing on everyone all of the time! NBD. That says nothing about how awesome YOU are!

You should only back off for real reasons, like if he’s married, or gay, or a sociopath, etc. (If only I had listened when someone told me not to date a sociopath…)

So let him know you like him, and quick, before he hooks up with her! Just be like, “we should go get some ___ sometime.” If you’re not comfortable asking him out, I’m sure you can think of a million different ways of showing him that you like him! Good luck. XO

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The Temptations, Stevie Wonder,The Miracles, The Supremes and Martha and the Vandellas, 1964 

The Temptations, Stevie Wonder,The Miracles, The Supremes and Martha and the Vandellas, 1964 

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#motown  #the supremes  #martha and the vandellas  #stevie wonder  #the temptations  #the miracles 
Setting up a love advice booth at this book drive/fundraiser for F.L.O.W. on Tuesday!
http://www.skylightbooks.com/flow-wishlist
XO

Setting up a love advice booth at this book drive/fundraiser for F.L.O.W. on Tuesday!

http://www.skylightbooks.com/flow-wishlist

XO

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Daily Haiku

Is everyone here

A self-promoting huckster?

The “art” of PR.

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#daily haiku  #haiku  #poem  #poetry 
iwaseasymeat asked: when will we have the delicious Fighting Words studio version?


Answer:

Hey there- I think that one won’t come out until the new album… summer of ‘15! XO

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theparisreview:
“I think he took his particular style—he was the best at it there could ever be. There was no room for further evolution, and no one has yet come up with another version of mime which is as appealing.”
Boston Globe interviews contributor Mave Fellowes on her appreciation of Marcel Marceau and the mime art form.

theparisreview:

“I think he took his particular style—he was the best at it there could ever be. There was no room for further evolution, and no one has yet come up with another version of mime which is as appealing.”

Boston Globe interviews contributor Mave Fellowes on her appreciation of Marcel Marceau and the mime art form.

— 3 weeks ago with 105 notes