Q: Hi Nedelle!
First off, I wanted to tell you that I really enjoyed your performances in Gainesville and Orlando! I’ve never heard your music up until then and I am now a big fan!
I have been dating this girl for about two years now. About a month ago, she decided to tell me that she wanted to break up with me, but that we would still have “benefits”. She is a bit younger than me and her reason behind it was that she thought it would be a good idea to explore our options, however; she also stated that she hopes that we end up together in the future.
Since then, we have continued to “hang out,” just not as often as we used to. I don’t think she is talking to anyone else in a serious manner, however; once in a while she will say weird things that’ll make me feel uncomfortable like “you should sleep with my roommate”.
I feel obligated to wait and be patient, but I don’t know if that is what’s best for me right now. Sometimes I feel like it would be nice to meet someone new, to see if we have better compatibility. I just don’t want to hurt her feelings, and I’m not sure if I want to let her go.
Sounds to me like she is holding reigns, for real. There should be no consideration for hurting her feelings, when she is the one calling the shots. She should be congratulated for constructing such a perfectly win-win situation for herself. If you feel like this lady is holding you back in any way, you should break it off. You said yourself you would like to meet someone you’re more compatible with. Well, I do believe you have a “straggler relaysh” on your hands, and these stragglers tend to snaggle any potential of finding and falling for someone new.
And one more thing. Anyone who says they would like to “explore our options but hopefully end up back together in the future” has no real desire to ever reunite. Sadly, and annoyingly, that is a tactic for letting someone go gently. So for the love of God (and yourself) pack those bags! Onwards and upwards!
Song Recommendation: Hit the Road Jack by Ray Charles