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imnskp:

This coming Tuesday night at 9:30 sharp! April 29th at Hotel Cafe with Cory Becker (@cory_becker) and Nedelle Torrisi (@nedelletorrisi)https://www.hotelcafe.com/tickets/?s=events_view&id=2739

imnskp:

This coming Tuesday night at 9:30 sharp! April 29th at Hotel Cafe with Cory Becker (@cory_becker) and Nedelle Torrisi (@nedelletorrisi)
https://www.hotelcafe.com/tickets/?s=events_view&id=2739

— 2 hours ago with 3 notes
Bending the Unspoken Rules
Q: A friend of mine recently posted a photo of a friend on Instagram. It was one of those connective moments where something inside you alerts you- everything slows down very cinematically while something like Jimmy Fontana plays softly in your mind as you watch them walk by, back into the full speed of reality. You know? 
She has one of those faces that… how should I put this. It’s interesting when you see a photo of a stranger, but someone you have real life ties to, and you get the sense that you can get along with that person, on even just a basic level. Is there a term for that? Mental? I feel it’s hard to articulate. For a lack of better words, there’s simply a “vibe”. Part of that definitely has to do with the two friends I know we share. Both of these people are amazing folks. Shouldn’t that spill over? Why wouldn’t she be just as awesome?
What do I do now? One would think I simply reach out to one of these friends that we share. But that never seems to work. I’ve had people try and set me up. Who knows how you’re being represented? They could be pitching me all wrong!
So, being that the girl I’m talking about here is you, I thought I’d go directly to the source. Any advice???
A: Dude! You totally had me there for a minute! I am so lol’ing right now. You are hilarious. And sweet! That said, I think it’s only right to let fate take its course in this particular circumstance. Anything else is just contrived and potentially too awkward to bear. I mean, I play shows (like next Tuesday 4/29 at the Hotel Cafe in Los Angeles) and we have mutual friends, so it’s not impossible that we won’t meet someday. Like I said, you’ve set yourself up for some inevitable awkwardness. But that’s not the end of the world. Ummm, thanks for writing in. : )
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#uh oh spaghettio  #instagram  #fate  #forcedfate 
kvetchlandia:
Bruce Davidson, Coney Island, New York, from the “Brooklyn Gang” Series 1959

kvetchlandia:

Bruce Davidson, Coney Island, New York, from the “Brooklyn Gang” Series 1959

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— 1 day ago with 148 notes
#coney island  #younglove 
theyroaredvintage:
Joan Didion by Julian Wasser, 1972.

theyroaredvintage:

Joan Didion by Julian Wasser, 1972.

— 1 day ago with 91 notes

orca kissing dog. omg

#orca #blackfish #boycottseaworld 

(Source: nondiegetics)

— 2 days ago with 2 notes
Show Show Show! #aaronembry is one of my favorite songwriters, and I’m so honored to play with him!
I’ll be joined by Kenny Gilmore and Gabe Noel. It’s going to be extra-ordinary XO

Show Show Show! #aaronembry is one of my favorite songwriters, and I’m so honored to play with him!

I’ll be joined by Kenny Gilmore and Gabe Noel. It’s going to be extra-ordinary XO

— 6 days ago with 6 notes
#mermaid #my favorite mythical creature

#mermaid #my favorite mythical creature

(Source: intothegloss)

— 1 week ago with 358 notes
'Tis little I could care for Pearls…

'Tis little I - could care for Pearls -

Who own the ample sea -
Or Brooches - when the Emperor -
With Rubies - pelteth me -

Or Gold - who am the Prince of Mines -
Or Diamonds - when have I
A [crown] to fit a Dome -
Continual upon me -

(note: diadem was the word used in place of crown, but who knows what a diadem is?! i wanted the poem to communicate immediately, without the use of a dictionary:)

— 1 week ago with 1 note
#emily dickinson  #national poetry month  #archaic language 
calumet412:
Age of Adolescence (Lincoln Park), 1960, Chicago. Joseph Sterling

calumet412:

Age of Adolescence (Lincoln Park), 1960, Chicago. Joseph Sterling

(via everythingandnow)

— 1 week ago with 1435 notes

When Am I Going to Make a Living

#i ask myself every day #themesong #sade #sade is my fairy godmother 

— 1 week ago with 5 notes
Future Facebook Groupie

Q: I was in love with a girl for 2.5 years, I would have done anything for her. However, after the relationship went south, she broke up with me following a week long break, in a text message! Since being single, I haven’t had much luck with new found crushes.

Recently met this girl on FB, we talked for a while on there. Several days pass and I didn’t hear back, so I figured, fuck it I’ll say something. We talked again, and it was great before I knew it she was giving me bands to listen to (I’m a musician too, but haven’t been playing much lately…)

However, she has yet to talk to me first. That sends a signal to me, that perhaps she isn’t all that interested, and she is simply being nice.

My question is- am I wasting my time with her? Or, is she simply not sure what I am doing, and doesn’t see it yet? Also, do you have any advice for going out alone? I mean, good lord, a 24 year-old-guy drinking solo at a bar, that makes me look like an alcoholic! 

A: Hi There- Firstly, your ex was so rude to breakup with you via text. If it was a real, functioning relationship for over two years, breaking up that way is unacceptable beyond belief. Sorry about that. Let’s move on, cuz she isn’t worth more than two sentences.

I think the only thing to do at this point is back off of the FB girl. She knows you’re interested. She’ll write to you if she wants to. I would advise that you focus on other things that make you happy, i.e. music! Duh. It’s a no-brainer. As everyone is well aware, rock star trumps all, as my friend Carolyn says. (She means, musician beats out artist, poet, writer, or actor in the great tarot deck of life.) Once you’re a banging musician again, the girls will flock. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t encourage groupie behavior… Just pointing out one possible, albeit stereotypical outcome of playing music… 
Also, playing music will land you in bars and around people, so no need to go to bars alone! Not that there’s anything wrong with that!
Maybe FB girl will receive the good vibes you’re exuding from doing the thing you love, and write to you! But tread carefully if this happens. It’s always suspicious when someone suddenly resurfaces after a long absence. Right?
Good luck and lmk if you have any follow-up questions. I’m here for YOU.
XO
Nedelle
#advice #loveadvice #relationships #breakups #crush
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