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Q: I was in love with a girl for 2.5 years, I would have done anything for her. However, after the relationship went south, she broke up with me following a week long break, in a text message! Since being single, I haven’t had much luck with new found crushes.

Recently met this girl on FB, we talked for a while on there. Several days pass and I didn’t hear back, so I figured, fuck it I’ll say something. We talked again, and it was great before I knew it she was giving me bands to listen to (I’m a musician too, but haven’t been playing much lately…)

However, she has yet to talk to me first. That sends a signal to me, that perhaps she isn’t all that interested, and she is simply being nice.

My question is- am I wasting my time with her? Or, is she simply not sure what I am doing, and doesn’t see it yet? Also, do you have any advice for going out alone? I mean, good lord, a 24 year-old-guy drinking solo at a bar, that makes me look like an alcoholic! 

A: Hi There- Firstly, your ex was so rude to breakup with you via text. If it was a real, functioning relationship for over two years, breaking up that way is unacceptable beyond belief. Sorry about that. Let’s move on, cuz she isn’t worth more than two sentences.

I think the only thing to do at this point is back off of the FB girl. She knows you’re interested. She’ll write to you if she wants to. I would advise that you focus on other things that make you happy, i.e. music! Duh. It’s a no-brainer. As everyone is well aware, rock star trumps all, as my friend Carolyn says. (She means, musician beats out artist, poet, writer, or actor in the great tarot deck of life.) Once you’re a banging musician again, the girls will flock. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t encourage groupie behavior… Just pointing out one possible, albeit stereotypical outcome of playing music… 
Also, playing music will land you in bars and around people, so no need to go to bars alone! Not that there’s anything wrong with that!
Maybe FB girl will receive the good vibes you’re exuding from doing the thing you love, and write to you! But tread carefully if this happens. It’s always suspicious when someone suddenly resurfaces after a long absence. Right?
Good luck and lmk if you have any follow-up questions. I’m here for YOU.
XO
Nedelle
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